Rehearsal Dinners

Joined: 23 Oct 2007 Posts: 1775

Pretty fucking gay, if you ask me.

Posted: Sat May 16, 2009 1:24 am

never been to one but they sound like an awful invention.

Posted: Sat May 16, 2009 1:45 am

Not at all!
It's like the only chance for all the close family to spend any time together around the wedding.

The ceremony itself is usually way hectic, the bride & groom are mobbed, and there are lots of distant acquaintances who want to make small talk or shake booties, leaving no opportunity for the immediate families to exist together as two units...? if that makes any sense.

I've only been to the one for my brother, but aside from my own divorced parents making things awkward, it was a grand thing to have.

Joined: 17 May 2008 Posts: 3060

In my country, and in my family, I believe rehearsal dinners should be between a man and a woman.

Posted: Sat May 16, 2009 1:48 am

P.S.: Maybe the reason it confuses people is the word "rehearsal" in the name. Yeah, nobody cares about that. It should just be called dinner.

Joined: 25 Jul 2008 Posts: 6011

I've been to a couple of these and they were alright once you get over the fact that you're spending Friday night with your family

Joined: 09 Oct 2005 Posts: 7953 Location: egg

the food was pretty good

Joined: 25 Jul 2008 Posts: 6011

The last one I went to was catered by a BBQ joint Fudgie the Whale, from Planet Birthday

Posted: Sat May 16, 2009 2:10 am

The one I went to was here: http://www.hawthornehotel.com/

Joined: 25 Jul 2008 Posts: 6011

ACK that thing in the corner looks like a bug!

Joined: 10 Feb 2008 Posts: 2750 Location: three-day week

I went to one a month ago and it was pretty good because i met some of my sister's friends and her husband's family properly for the first time and also the priest and his wife came and they were nice people. Also the food was really good and then we went home and drank quality whiskey.

Posted: Sat May 16, 2009 10:53 am

the saturday option wrote:

I've been to a couple of these and they were alright once you get over the fact that you're spending Friday night with your family

are you trolling

Joined: 18 Sep 2008 Posts: 8353

what would be the trolly part there?

Posted: Sat May 16, 2009 1:27 pm

anything wedding party related = automatically the worst imo

Posted: Sat May 16, 2009 1:29 pm

DTZ Reunion Tour wrote:

what would be the trolly part there?

"god spending time with your family is so lame" seems quite trollish to me

Posted: Sat May 16, 2009 1:37 pm

not really

i think a lot of people don't like spending time with their family

Joined: 25 Jul 2008 Posts: 6011

Shandy, are you one of those people who go "Oh yeah, well I'd give anything to spend time with my father but HE'S DEAD" whenever someone bitches about their parents?

Joined: 18 Sep 2008 Posts: 8353

"What are you guys talking about? Unibrows are great. You must be trolling..."

Posted: Sat May 16, 2009 2:10 pm

the saturday option wrote:

Shandy, are you one of those people who go "Oh yeah, well I'd give anything to spend time with my father but HE'S DEAD" whenever someone bitches about their parents?

Haha, no. If only my father were dead.

Joined: 18 Sep 2008 Posts: 8353

wtf
so you wish your father were dead but you can't understand why someone wouldn't want to spend friday night with their family?

WHAT THE hug IS WRONG WITH YOU SHANDY

Joined: 13 Jun 2008 Posts: 1108 Location: PA

I'm going to one of these things next month.

Are significant others of members of the wedding party usually allowed to go?

Joined: 10 Apr 2009 Posts: 382 Location: t dot

Shandy wrote:

the saturday option wrote:

Shandy, are you one of those people who go "Oh yeah, well I'd give anything to spend time with my father but HE'S DEAD" whenever someone bitches about their parents?

Haha, no. If only my father were dead.

this is a troll

Posted: Sat May 16, 2009 5:13 pm

bing the boy who cried troll

Joined: 23 Oct 2007 Posts: 1775

None of my family was there, just fyi. I was a groomsman in the wedding.

Joined: 13 May 2007 Posts: 1285 Location: in transit

i don't know if there are any set rules on who gets invited to the rehearsal dinner. it's usually people who are involved with the wedding, their significant others, and then maybe out of town guests who arrived early.

the size can vary from just close families to pretty much everyone who is going to the wedding.

i've been to quite a few of these things. it seems like they tend to be a preview of the overall tone of the wedding. if people get along okay there will be decent mingling chemistry at the wedding and it will be good times.

if there are awkward times at the dinner get ready for awkward times at the reception.

also i think it's sometimes called the groom's dinner? traditionally the groom's parents foot the bill so they kinda decide who is invited.

Joined: 13 May 2007 Posts: 1285 Location: in transit

i don't sit around reading wedding etiquette books i swear.

well i don't sit around reading wedding etiquette books OFTEN.

(looking for a way out of inviting my family)